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Thomas Bender Therapy

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  • Paonia, CO 81428
  • 505-681-1140

    Couples Therapy, Couples Coaching, and Intensives

    Couples Counseling

    Relationships aren’t always easy — even the strongest couples can hit rough patches. When patterns of miscommunication, conflict, or disconnection start to take over, it can help to have professional guidance to get back on track.



    In couples therapy, I provide a safe, honest, and supportive space where you and your partner can explore what’s not working, build new tools for connection, and strengthen the bond you share. My approach draws on years of experience, training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), and a mix of insight, directness, humor, and real-life practicality.

    Working with me, you and your partner will:

    • Build healthier, more honest communication habits
    • Learn to navigate conflict with greater clarity and compassion
    • Deepen your relational connection and mutual respect
    • Get support around parenting challenges
    • And yes — reconnect with joy and have more fun together

    Whether you’re in crisis or just feeling stuck, couples therapy can help you move forward with greater clarity, courage, and connection.

    Couples Intensives

    Sometimes we get into a marital or relational rut with no apparent way out. Often we lapse into blaming our partner rather than taking ownership of our own issues. For those who need to jumpstart their partnership, I offer half-day Couples Preservation Retreats (CPR) in the picturesque town of Paonia, Colorado, located on the beautiful western slope of the Colorado Rockies. Here, you can combine intense relational work with connecting with nature.

    Your couples retreat includes:

    • An in-depth, pre-retreat assessment
    • Four hours of face-to-face time with Tom for intimacy- and skills- building work
    • Relational exercises, tools, and take-home handouts that help keep love (and communication) alive
    • One 90-minute tele-therapy follow-up appointment

    If your marriage or partnership is teetering on the relational ledge, contact me today to book your confidential couples consultation.

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