If you are a survivor of trauma (either from childhood or as an adult) you have likely developed a number of ways to skillfully live your life, but may not feel as if you are truly thriving. Perhaps you have learned how to tuck the past away and live with it, but those unhealed places may still be affecting your present life in negative ways. Unresolved trauma is that lonely place in your body where you store and hide your pain. It can lead to a variety of challenges including:
I use non-judgmental presence and several therapeutic modalities to assist you in healing and freeing yourself from the effects of the past.
Tom Bender helped me through my journey of healing within. He gave me tools that were crucial to becoming the best me possible. I will be forever thankful to him for helping me find my unconditional self worth.
Tom has been instrumental in helping me navigate several life transitions. He is always patient, insightful and compassionate. He has helped me focus on being more vulnerable, more empathetic and more grateful.
Tom Bender helped save my life! Tom guided me in dealing with my childhood trauma and my divorce so I can embrace my true purpose and desire to be the best father to my children, a more fruitful human, and now, I am a better partner in my relationship with my true love. Finding Tom was nothing short of divine intervention and I am grateful for his knowledge and guidance.
Tom Bender saved my life. I know that seems hyperbolic, especially in a testimonial. But it’s true. I have been to Tom for two different reasons in five and a half years of treatment in Albuquerque, New Mexico. At first, it was for marriage counseling. Tom gave my wife and I tools to help communicate so when we would fight, we could fight in a better, more respectful way. With those communications skills we found that eventually, “fights” became conversations. But a year after ending couples therapy, I returned to Tom because my life was falling apart. I was an addict. I had lost my job. I was sleeping on my mother’s couch because my family was falling apart. It turned out I had much deeper issues than lack of communication. I was in the darkest place in my life and so I returned to Tom. I opened up to him immediately and was shocked by his response. He was empathetic, without excusing me. He was kind and generous, without judgement. He gave me solid solutions that actually helped. Today, I am happier than I’ve ever been. Tom taught me that there is always a road back. I owe Tom more than I could ever say.